Soon the way we respond becomes our habit and then it gets labeled as Personality and that gets stamped as our identity. Our identities are influenced and shaped by a number of structures. The key structures being a)the family we are born into b)The nation we are born into and c)our gender. So we may well ask, do we have any control over our identities? How can we? We cannot control any of the above factors. It’s all a matter ofchance as to where we are born as well as the gender that we are born into. Now let us analyze each of these structures in depth. Our family: Our family plays a vital role in shaping our personality. The status and class of the family that we are born into play an important role. Not only that, the attitudes of our family members set a precedent expectation from us. For example, the number of siblings that you have as well as your own number, whether you are an elder brother or sister, or a middle one or the youngest one will definitely have a greater say in deciding how you yourself turn out to be. Each and every moment of your life that you lead impacts and etches a stamp on your personality. Our nation: while we are growing up, we are constantly influenced by the environment. Things that happen around us are going to color our thoughts and belief patterns forever. There is peer pressure that gives life to our personality, helps us in making choices. While we are in our teens, the growth stage of our country will definitely have an impact on us. A person in a third world country will definitely have different values as compared to a person in a developed country like ours. The values that our country stands for are the values that we will take up albeit subconsciously. It may happen occasionally that we may take an opposite stand. this is just the growing up phase. Youths have a need to prove themselves even it means getting rebellious. Then there is the herd mentality. Just because your friends think so, you do too or maybe that’s the sole reason you do not.